Love and Relationships: Business of the heart
Love
This word has been around for such a long time that corporations have even started cashing on it with holidays such as Valentine’s Day. Those red roses and boxes of chocolate make many women glow as they receive such gifts on the 14th of every year all in the name of Love.
We all know why most of us (including myself) celebrate Valentine’s Day, but the most important question anyone can ask is “What is love?"
What is love though? How do we define such an emotion that has withstood the test of time and still prevailed? From theatre to movies, poetry to music; it still remains the same. The languages may vary and we may be of different races and culture, but love still remains the same.
Back to my original question, what is love? Some define love as a tender, passionate affection and strong liking towards a person; while others such as myself refrain from putting words on something such as that because all what the words do is give us just an idea of what love is.
It is very interesting to see how the word love is just thrown around these days, yet some people who use it don't seem to believe it.
Relationships in our current century seem to have lost what they should be about, love. I was shocked to learn that there are some people who love with conditions (provided they do love at all). There are people out there that believe if their partner doesn't give them what they want; whether it be marriage, a child or whatever it is they may want; they are willing to leave that person and find someone who will give them what they want. Is that what love is all about? I'm not an expert on love or relationships but that definitely doesn't sound like love to me. That sounds like a normal business transaction. That's basically just saying to your partner “I’ll love you provided you give me a baby boy, if you not I'll find someone that will". When one enters into a business relationship/ transaction there are always terms and conditions. When companies negotiate a deal the parties involved need to draft a memorandum of understanding and agree to one another's terms. If one the parties goes against those terms ( breach of contract), they can either negotiate a new deal or the company which 'suffered' as a result of the breach can simply find itself a new business partner.
This is what relationships have turned into nowadays. There's hardly any respect between the man and woman, just business. There is no love in a business relationship hence the term “it’s nothing personal, simply business". So people can step on each other's toes, stab one another in the back and that would be fine because " it's simply business".
Well we shouldn't be surprised why the divorce rate is so high. Parents mustn't get shocked when their son/daughter brings home someone different every week. Our society has molded us not to love, but instead to enter into negotiations like companies. What happened to growing old together, ‘till death do us part? When you see a 80-something year old lady pushing her husband in his wheelchair across the street or vice versa, don't you ever think that she could have left and found herself a man that could walk and didn't need her to change him like a baby? Don't get me wrong, there are some great relationships out there which are based on love, trust, respect and patience. All I'm saying is as young people we tend to lack some of those qualities needed to build a strong relationship that when we say 'till death do us part, those words will actually carry more volume and mean something.
Have we actually wondered why most people cheat on their spouses? It's probably because their terms and conditions are not being fulfilled in their current relationship hence they go out searching for new partners. I may be wrong with everything I've just said, but who knows, we all get into relationships for different reasons. Some do it just to be financially stable, because the man makes so much money and comes from a good family. Some do it for the fear of being alone. Some do it for sexual pleasure and some just don't know why they doing it, probably because it's the ' in thing ' to do.
If our relationships are going to be like business transactions then let's just cut to the chase. If you want to be in a relationship with someone, have your lawyers draft a contract which you both need to sign. That contract should state your terms and conditions so that you both know exactly what is expected of you and in the event that you are unable to fulfill your obligations, your contract shall be cancelled.
It might sound ridiculous but we can have something whereby the man's terms are: the first born child should be a boy, should be able to leave the toilet seat up as he pleases, sex five times a week three times a day (just what the doctor recommends) and no cats or Chihuahua.
The woman's terms could be as follows: he must have a good job so that she can shop as much as she wants without him complaining; he must put the toilet seat down after using it, no after work drinks with the boys and no baby mamas.
As funny as it may seem though,this is a serious matter and it's affecting our youth. I guess for some guys it's a case of they must hold on dearly for that good job to avoid going broke and for the ladies, just stay away from McDonalds and KFC.
At the end of the day it's all about love.
This word has been around for such a long time that corporations have even started cashing on it with holidays such as Valentine’s Day. Those red roses and boxes of chocolate make many women glow as they receive such gifts on the 14th of every year all in the name of Love.
We all know why most of us (including myself) celebrate Valentine’s Day, but the most important question anyone can ask is “What is love?"
What is love though? How do we define such an emotion that has withstood the test of time and still prevailed? From theatre to movies, poetry to music; it still remains the same. The languages may vary and we may be of different races and culture, but love still remains the same.
Back to my original question, what is love? Some define love as a tender, passionate affection and strong liking towards a person; while others such as myself refrain from putting words on something such as that because all what the words do is give us just an idea of what love is.
Love can be different things to many people because it embodies various relationships as well as experiences. The love a mother has for her children is not the same as the love she has for her siblings. The love you have for your friends is not the same love you have towards your boyfriend/ girlfriend. Therefore love varies for many people. There is a difference between loving someone and actually being in love with them. It all comes down to how you feel.
Relationships in our current century seem to have lost what they should be about, love. I was shocked to learn that there are some people who love with conditions (provided they do love at all). There are people out there that believe if their partner doesn't give them what they want; whether it be marriage, a child or whatever it is they may want; they are willing to leave that person and find someone who will give them what they want. Is that what love is all about? I'm not an expert on love or relationships but that definitely doesn't sound like love to me. That sounds like a normal business transaction. That's basically just saying to your partner “I’ll love you provided you give me a baby boy, if you not I'll find someone that will". When one enters into a business relationship/ transaction there are always terms and conditions. When companies negotiate a deal the parties involved need to draft a memorandum of understanding and agree to one another's terms. If one the parties goes against those terms ( breach of contract), they can either negotiate a new deal or the company which 'suffered' as a result of the breach can simply find itself a new business partner.
This is what relationships have turned into nowadays. There's hardly any respect between the man and woman, just business. There is no love in a business relationship hence the term “it’s nothing personal, simply business". So people can step on each other's toes, stab one another in the back and that would be fine because " it's simply business".
Well we shouldn't be surprised why the divorce rate is so high. Parents mustn't get shocked when their son/daughter brings home someone different every week. Our society has molded us not to love, but instead to enter into negotiations like companies. What happened to growing old together, ‘till death do us part? When you see a 80-something year old lady pushing her husband in his wheelchair across the street or vice versa, don't you ever think that she could have left and found herself a man that could walk and didn't need her to change him like a baby? Don't get me wrong, there are some great relationships out there which are based on love, trust, respect and patience. All I'm saying is as young people we tend to lack some of those qualities needed to build a strong relationship that when we say 'till death do us part, those words will actually carry more volume and mean something.
Have we actually wondered why most people cheat on their spouses? It's probably because their terms and conditions are not being fulfilled in their current relationship hence they go out searching for new partners. I may be wrong with everything I've just said, but who knows, we all get into relationships for different reasons. Some do it just to be financially stable, because the man makes so much money and comes from a good family. Some do it for the fear of being alone. Some do it for sexual pleasure and some just don't know why they doing it, probably because it's the ' in thing ' to do.
If our relationships are going to be like business transactions then let's just cut to the chase. If you want to be in a relationship with someone, have your lawyers draft a contract which you both need to sign. That contract should state your terms and conditions so that you both know exactly what is expected of you and in the event that you are unable to fulfill your obligations, your contract shall be cancelled.
It might sound ridiculous but we can have something whereby the man's terms are: the first born child should be a boy, should be able to leave the toilet seat up as he pleases, sex five times a week three times a day (just what the doctor recommends) and no cats or Chihuahua.
The woman's terms could be as follows: he must have a good job so that she can shop as much as she wants without him complaining; he must put the toilet seat down after using it, no after work drinks with the boys and no baby mamas.
As funny as it may seem though,this is a serious matter and it's affecting our youth. I guess for some guys it's a case of they must hold on dearly for that good job to avoid going broke and for the ladies, just stay away from McDonalds and KFC.
At the end of the day it's all about love.
Love and Relationships: Business of the heart
Reviewed by K Machacha
on
June 14, 2011
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Reviewed by K Machacha
on
June 14, 2011
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