IN MEMORY OF A FALLEN HERO Pt 3

There are a lot of men around the world who are in abusive relationships yet they are not aware of it. In the 21^st century most men have lost their place in their homes as THE man of the house. Many relationships are no longer based on the same principles as they were many years ago. In many cases these days a man has to prove his manhood by how much he earns compared to his woman. The degree of respect is based on how much he brings home and the moment his woman earns more or is more successful than he is, is when the pressure starts to mount and the relationship changes and so does the level of respect.

As relationships grow older the romance tends fade a little. Pair that with the unexpected arrival of children which puts more pressure on the couple financially and you have yourself a time bomb, which might go off any minute if not defused. There are many stressors in life and these stressors might end up leading an individual into a depressed state without them even knowing it. Most woman have certain goals that they would like to achieve within a certain period, but not everything ever goes as planned unless you are that obsessed about your life. You might end up falling pregnant before getting your degree or your friends end up getting married before you do and then you take out your frustration on the person you feel put you in that situation; your partner.

Such relationships are not healthy and tend to end up in very bad breakups or even worse unless the people involved choose to find some sort of help individually.

In most cases where both individuals are stressed or depressed, there tends to be a third party. By third party I mean someone starts seeking attention from someone of the opposite sex just so that they can feel wanted and happy. Some people call it cheating. For some it will remain as an assumption and for others it can be proven, if you know your partner well enough the tell tale signs will be there long before you even confirm your suspicions, you just have to now where to look.

Every caring man knows his woman. He knows when she’s happy and when she’s sad. He knows when she’s telling the truth or when she is lying. As I mentioned before, many African men grow up being told that a man doesn’t cry for crying is a sign of weakness. But there is that happens in a man when everything he’s ever worked hard for disappear. Something breaks in him in a manner that not even he can explain.

Very few men find the courage to pick themselves up and carry, but some are not so strong willed. We’ve heard of men who just pick up the gun and shoot their entire family including themselves yet this is something that many people can’t seem to explain.

Another thing to consider is this; you might love someone yet your actions say the opposite. As long as your actions remain the same there will come a time when that person is no longer around and that’s when you will we could be giving a second chance just to show them how much you love them.  Certain things in life get taken away from us because we don’t deserve them.
But the most important thing to remember is that life goes on and those we have lost would wish that for us.

Rest in peace